We are Lane and Kelly, and we thank you for taking a few minutes to get to know us! We've been married since 2010, and have been blessed with five of the greatest little humans. Kelly is an attorney and mediator, and Lane is a software engineer. We both come from large, tight-knit families, and have always known we wanted a big family of our own. After a lot of talk and prayer, we know we are meant to adopt a baby girl to complete our family.
We're excited. Our kids are excited. The baby girl we adopt will be coming into a loving and happy family, with parents and siblings who already adore her and can't wait to play with her.
How it all began in Kelly's words
Lane and I met back in 2006. I was 20 years old, and had just graduated with my bachelor’s degree. I moved to California to begin Law School, which happened to be in the same city, and located directly across the street from the university where Lane was attending school. Due to a mutual circle of friends, Lane and I were both invited to a beach bonfire near the city of Newport. And this is where we first met.
It was the middle of August, and having never been to California prior to this, when I was invited to a beach bonfire, it never even crossed my mind that it could get cold in the evening. But being surrounded by native Californians, they clearly knew better, and came prepared with hoodies and jackets. I ended up borrowing someone’s towel to keep warm, and after stealing glances at me all night while he played his guitar by the fire, Lane made a witty comment (he has a very dry sense of humor that he can easily pair with flirtatious comments) about how I “looked good in a towel”. We all laughed, and Lane and I forged a connection after that. However, we mostly remained friendly acquaintances for the first 9 months of knowing each other.
We then one day had a conversation, where he jokingly threw out that I should go sky diving. And so I did. 2 hours later. And it just so happened that the sky diving place was located in Lane’s home town, where he was headed that day to attend a cousin’s wedding. So he drove me to the sky diving location, I jumped out of a plane, and then the two of us went to his cousin’s wedding together, where I met Lane’s family. We basically became attached at the hip after that, and spent the next 9 months exploring California and going on adventures together. Our friendship naturally evolved into more, and we dated for 2 years before we officially got engaged, and then married 2 months later.
While Lane and I were dating, I relocated back to my home state of Utah to finish my 3rd, and final year of Law School at Brigham Young University. Knowing we did not want to do long distance, but also knowing we wanted to continue dating, Lane followed me to Utah and we have lived here ever since.
Who is Kelly? in Lane's words
Kelly graduated from high school a year early, completed her bachelor's degree by the time she was 20, finished law school 3 years later, and then passed the bar and opened her own legal practice all by the time she was 24. To say she's ambitious, hardworking, and smart is an understatement. She worked representing children during divorce cases while she was in law school and absolutely loved being able to help get the best possible outcome for the kids involved in those cases. She wanted to continue that in her own practice, so she became a court-certified mediator, and now she helps divorcing couples reach the most amicable outcome possible for themselves and their families. She also has a "side hustle" selling makeup, and was 7th in sales in her company in 2018, out of nearly 10,000 people. You probably don't know many lawyers who sell makeup, but she's a natural at both.
With all her of ambition and innate abilities, Kelly's #1 priority has always been being a devoted mother and wife. She grew up the 4th of 10 children, so she always had babies around, and always looked forward to being a mom to her own babies. Almost all of her work can be done from home, and she is first and foremost a stay-at-home mom. There is nothing more important to her than our family.
Kelly is festive. Any excuse to celebrate, and she will make sure there are treats, decorations, a party-- whatever she can come up with. Sure, there are all the regular holidays, and she goes all out. (Christmas music starts the first day of November around here.) She firmly believes that her birthday should be a national holiday, and now our kids feel the same about their birthdays.
For reasons I don't understand, Flag Day is also considered a festive holiday, just so she can make flag-themed treats I think. I don't know, she may have explained it once. She made me memorize her birth date and when Flag Day is (June 14th) when we were dating.
Does she make us dress like cows at Chick-fil-A for a free meal every year? Yup. (Was I not-so-secretly happy we missed it this year? Maybe...) Did she make the kids talk like pirates for free Krispy Kreme donuts? Yarrrr. And did they love every minute of it? Definitely!
Kelly is loving and kind and loves helping people. She's a fiercely loyal wife and mother. I'm a capable grown man, but now that I've had her in my life for as long as I have, I can't imagine trying to get along without her. I do my best to show her that I love her every day, and I feel like it pales in comparison to how she radiates her love for me and our kids. She makes my life fun and meaningful, and will do anything in her power to make my life better. (As long as I'm willing to wear a cow mask for a pretty average chicken sandwich every once in a while.)
Who is Lane? in Kelly's words
If most people were asked to describe Lane, the first thing that would come out of their mouth would be funny. He has a dry sense of humor that will catch you off guard because of how quick witted he is. But his humor goes beyond just being funny. Lane has a way of making others feel included. He’s always aware of the person being left out of the conversation or standing off by themselves, and will often go out of his way to include them. His sense of humor can lighten any mood and make others feel comfortable and relaxed in situations that are more stressful or tense. He has been known to get out of his car and “stretch” at a red light of a busy intersection when he knows co-workers are in the car behind him, or do the floss dance in front of the conference room glass windows during important executive meetings involving his company’s CEO.
Lane is playful, and enjoys getting down on the ground to play with our kids. Even when he is exhausted, he has a way of making his attempt to take a “nap” into game by telling the kids how awful it would be to have pillows and blankets put on top of him. And so they all giggle and start piling as many comfy things on top of him as they can, while Lane gets to lie there with his eyes closed and throwing out silly comments about how “terrible” it is.
Lane puts his family first, and makes them a priority with everything he does. Lane has always been actively involved in our children’s lives. He takes on a hands on approach in raising them, and is an equal partner in parenting them.
Lane is easy going and easy to please. He does not ask for much, and he never complains. He is someone who is able to just roll with the punches and doesn’t allow for the hard things in life to get him down or leave him feeling discouraged. He just keeps moving forward and doesn’t stress the small stuff… or the big stuff, for that matter.
Lane is easily the most forgiving person I know. He does not hold grudges in the slightest and is able to move past negative things very quickly. Lane also never defines people by their past. He sees people for how they are and accepts them in whatever position in life they are at.
When Lane and I hung out for the first time, I was alarmed at how comfortable and natural everything felt with him. He felt like “home” and continues to feel that way for me. He is without a doubt my very best friend, and he never misses a day of telling me how much he loves me, how beautiful I am, and that I am “perfect”. He is a rare breed, and our children and I are beyond blessed to have him in our lives.